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Psychotherapy for Borderline Personality: Focusing on Object Relations

Clarkin, J., Yeomans, F., & Kernberg, O. (2006)

APA Citation

Clarkin, J., Yeomans, F., & Kernberg, O. (2006). Psychotherapy for Borderline Personality: Focusing on Object Relations. American Psychiatric Publishing.

Summary

This treatment manual presents Transference-Focused Psychotherapy (TFP), developed by Otto Kernberg and colleagues for borderline personality disorder. TFP is a psychodynamic approach that uses the therapeutic relationship to address the fragmented, polarized internal world characteristic of severe personality pathology. The treatment helps patients integrate split-off parts of themselves and develop more stable, nuanced views of self and others. While focused on BPD, the principles apply to other severe personality disorders including narcissistic personality disorder.

Why This Matters for Survivors

Understanding how personality disorders are treated helps survivors grasp both the possibility of change and why it's so difficult. TFP addresses the internal fragmentation underlying personality pathology—the black-and-white thinking, the idealization and devaluation cycles you experienced. Knowing that treatment exists, but requires sustained commitment the narcissist probably won't make, helps calibrate realistic expectations.

What This Work Establishes

Severe personality disorders can be treated. TFP provides a structured, evidence-based approach for conditions once considered untreatable. Meaningful change in personality organization is possible.

The therapeutic relationship is the treatment tool. Patients enact their patterns in therapy; working through these enactments produces change. This is different from just talking about problems.

Integration is the goal. Treatment aims to integrate split representations—moving from black-and-white to nuanced views of self and others. This addresses the idealization-devaluation cycles characteristic of these disorders.

Treatment requires sustained commitment. Deep personality change takes years of twice-weekly therapy. There are no shortcuts for restructuring how someone relates to themselves and others.

Why This Matters for Survivors

Change is possible but demanding. The narcissist could potentially change—but it would require acknowledging problems and committing to years of difficult therapy. Most narcissists won’t do this.

Understanding what treatment involves. Knowing that effective treatment requires sustained self-examination helps explain why the narcissist hasn’t changed despite promises. The work required is exactly what narcissistic defenses avoid.

The patterns you experienced are treatable. The splitting, idealization-devaluation, and identity confusion you witnessed are recognized clinical patterns with established treatments. What you experienced wasn’t random.

Calibrating expectations. Understanding treatment realities helps you decide based on facts. Hoping for change that requires commitment the narcissist hasn’t shown isn’t realistic.

Clinical Implications

Consider TFP for severe personality pathology. This evidence-based approach may be indicated for patients with identity diffusion, splitting, and chaotic relationships.

Assess treatment readiness. Not all patients can engage in TFP’s demands. Assess capacity for reflection and tolerance of uncomfortable insights.

Educate about treatment realities. Help family members understand what effective treatment requires—this may help them calibrate expectations about the personality-disordered individual.

Use TFP principles in understanding. Even when treating survivors rather than the personality-disordered individual, TFP concepts help explain what the survivor experienced.

How This Work Is Used in the Book

Kernberg’s treatment approach appears in chapters on treatment possibilities:

“Otto Kernberg and colleagues developed Transference-Focused Psychotherapy—an evidence-based treatment for severe personality disorders. The treatment works, but requires years of twice-weekly therapy with sustained self-examination. The narcissist must acknowledge their patterns, tolerate painful insights, and persist through difficult phases. Most narcissists won’t do this—their defenses exist precisely to avoid such self-examination. Knowing treatment exists but demands what narcissists typically refuse helps you make decisions based on reality rather than hope.”

Historical Context

This 2006 manual codified Kernberg’s decades of clinical development. His object relations approach to personality disorders had been influential since the 1960s, but lacked standardized treatment protocol. This manual made TFP teachable, testable, and exportable.

Subsequent research demonstrated TFP’s effectiveness—not just symptom reduction but actual changes in personality organization. This established TFP alongside DBT and mentalization-based treatment as evidence-based approaches for severe personality pathology.

Further Reading

  • Kernberg, O.F. (1975). Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism. Jason Aronson.
  • Yeomans, F.E., et al. (2015). Transference-Focused Psychotherapy for Borderline Personality Disorder: A Clinical Guide. American Psychiatric Publishing.
  • Clarkin, J.F., et al. (2007). Evaluating three treatments for borderline personality disorder: A multiwave study. American Journal of Psychiatry, 164(6), 922-928.
  • Levy, K.N., et al. (2006). Change in attachment patterns and reflective function in a randomized control trial of transference-focused psychotherapy. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology, 74(6), 1027-1040.

About the Author

Otto F. Kernberg, MD is one of the most influential figures in personality disorder theory and treatment. His object relations approach has shaped understanding of borderline and narcissistic pathology for decades.

John F. Clarkin, PhD and Frank E. Yeomans, MD, PhD have collaborated with Kernberg to develop and test TFP, establishing it as an evidence-based treatment for severe personality disorders.

Historical Context

This 2006 manual codified decades of clinical development. Kernberg's object relations approach to personality disorders, developed since the 1960s, had been influential but lacked a standardized treatment protocol. This manual made TFP teachable and testable, leading to research demonstrating its effectiveness.

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Related Terms

Glossary

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Borderline Personality Disorder

A personality disorder characterized by emotional instability, intense fear of abandonment, unstable relationships, and identity disturbance. Often develops from childhood trauma and shares overlaps with narcissistic abuse effects.

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Identity Diffusion

A poorly integrated or unstable sense of self, characterized by confusion about who you are, what you value, and what you want. Common in personality disorders and in survivors of narcissistic abuse who were never allowed to develop autonomous identities.

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Splitting

A psychological defence mechanism involving all-or-nothing thinking where people or situations are seen as entirely good or entirely bad, with no middle ground.

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Transference-Focused Psychotherapy

An evidence-based psychodynamic treatment for personality disorders that uses the patient's relationships patterns as they emerge with the therapist (transference) to understand and change deep-seated interpersonal patterns.

Related Research

Further Reading

attachment 2002

Affect Regulation, Mentalization, and the Development of the Self

Fonagy et al.

Book Ch. 4, 5, 6...
personality 1975

Borderline Conditions and Pathological Narcissism

Kernberg, O.

Book Ch. 1, 2, 3...
personality 1984

Severe Personality Disorders: Psychotherapeutic Strategies

Kernberg, O.

Book Ch. 1, 2, 3...
treatment 1993

Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder

Linehan, M.

Book Ch. 2, 3, 12...

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